Bi-national couple separated by law
by Bill Iaccarino
I have been living with my partner, Ian, for two years now. We are in a committed and loving relationship. He came to this country in the fall of 1999 to study and went on to earn his second master's degree in teaching English. Upon graduation, he began the difficult process of trying to find a job. At each attempt, he was rejected for not being certified, which requires U.S. citizenship.
So he began to look for a job in forestry, the topic of his bachelor's and first master's degree. He was hired at a recycled paper company and began the very difficult and expensive process of applying for a work visa. There were several requests for more information and money to process his application faster. He was rejected for many reasons, but, basically, they told him he was overqualified for the position he was holding.
On July 14, 2002, I put the person I love and with whom I have shared a committed relationship on a plane back to Taiwan, unsure of when we would see each other again. If we could get married, then we would not be in this situation.
The Constitution promises "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness." It does not say to exclude some people from that promise. I feel that the country has turned its back on me because they think I am unworthy of legal marriage. Gay and lesbian people live just like anyone else. I would love for people to come into our home and see that. We are not freaks. We love just like everyone else.
My partner came to this country, like many of our relatives, in pursuit of a better life. Now he may never be able to come back. I would be lost in this world without him. My family treats him like a son. He is such a special person and has brought so much joy into our lives. I am not looking for special treatment. All I want is a venue to get my word to the people. It is hard for me to believe that I am the only one in this situation. Please help me get my voice heard, help me change the world, help me get my partner back so that we can continue our life.
Oct. 30, 2002