Religions that Bless Same-Sex Unions
If same-sex couples want tradition, nothing is more traditional than a church. While many religious bodies unfortunately do not yet bless same-sex unions, a growing number do. Among them: Reform Judaism, Unitarian Universalist and the GLBT-focused Metropolitan Community Church. The Presbyterian Church (USA) also allows ceremonies to be performed, albeit only if they are not considered “the same as a marriage ceremony.” And the Episcopal Church and United Church of Christ allow individual churches to set their own policy on same-sex unions.
A Word of Advice
“At the first point of contact, inform a religious leader that you want a gay commitment ceremony,” says Gala Barnes, who is planning a ceremony with her partner in 2003. “That way there are no surprises when you meet.”
Non-Religious Venues.
If you want to have your ceremony someplace other than a church, synagogue or temple, here are some tips for choosing a location:
- Where did you meet? If you and your partner met in some romantic spot, that may be just the place for a ceremony. Call the owners of the property, ask if they’ve ever hosted same-sex ceremonies or would be willing to and set a date!
- Inns and hotels, public parks and historic homes all host wedding parties. And many may have already hosted same-sex ceremonies.
- Search the Internet. If you are looking for something specific, search the web for that and the term “marriage” (since many places don’t promote their gay friendliness).
If your home, a friend’s home or a family member’s home is big and enticing enough, you might want to ask them if they’d be willing to host your ceremony. This could cut down on the cost and provide a comfortable place for such a special day.