Marriage and Coming Out as Transgender
Some transgender people come out only after years of denial, having spent many of those years in heterosexual marriages, sometimes with children.
Much of what determines whether a marriage will continue depends on both of the spouses and what each is willing to accept, give up and/or change. As with all relationships, the ability to communicate and compromise is crucial. One spouse coming to terms with his or her gender identity and even transitioning does not automatically mean that the marriage will end. While some do, there are other couples who weather the changes and remain in a loving relationship.
For more about marriage and the unique legal issues that many transgender people face, read Transgender People and Marriage: The Importance of Legal Planning.
Transparentcy is a web-based community for transgender parents and offers a comprehensive list of related resources. Organizations such as the Straight Spouse Support Network can help the non-transgender spouse during this often confusing time. For children of transgender parents, organizations such as Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere, offer resources and personal stories.